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Subject:       PARSHA61 -12: Parashat Vayechi


                   YESHIVAT HAR ETZION
      YISRAEL KOSCHITZKY VIRTUAL BEIT MIDRASH (VBM)
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                    PARASHAT VAYECHI

                           
                 The Path of Repentance:
             A Response to Rav Yoel Bin-Nun
                           
                  By Rav Ya'akov Medan
                Adapted by Rav Zvi Shimon


I  would like to critique the theory offered by Rav Yoel  Bin-Nun  in  last  week's shiur  and  to  offer   an alternate explanation.

I) CRITIQUE OF RAV BIN-NUN'S THEORY

I  find  untenable Rav Bin-Nun's thesis that   Yosef suspected  that  his  father had  rejected  him  and   had approved  of  the brothers' actions. Yosef knew  that  he was,  after all, his father's favorite son, and that  his father had made him the striped coat.  He also knew  that his  father  had loved Rachel more than his other  wives. Above   all,   would  a  man  like  Ya'akov behave   so deceitfully, sending Yosef to his brothers on  the  false pretext  of  ascertaining their well-being, intending  in fact  that they sell him as a slave?  Is there a son  who would suspect his father of such a deed?  This assumption is totally unrealistic.

It  also remains unclear why Yosef, surprised   that his  father did not seek him out, came to harbor the kind of suspicions attributed to him by R. Bin-Nun.  How could he  be  certain  that his father knew of  the  sale,  but refrained  from searching for him?  Why did it not  occur to  him  that his father regarded him as dead?   To  this day,  a person who disappears without a trace is presumed dead.   Why  should we assume that Yosef did not  believe that  the  brothers  were lying to his  father?   It   was precisely because the brothers did not habitually  report their  actions  to  their  father  that  Yosef  found   it necessary to tell his father all their misdeeds (37:2).

In addition, R. Bin-Nun claims that Yosef's stubborn silence  was broken upon hearing Yehuda report  Ya'akov's words:  "He was surely devoured and I have not  seen  him since"  (44:28). Yosef realized at this  point  that  his father  had not deserted him.  However, according to  the simplest  reading  of the text, Yosef's resistance  broke down  when  Yehuda offered himself as a slave instead  of Binyamin:

"...  Therefore, please let your servant remain  as  a slave  to my lord instead of the boy, and let the  boy go  back with his brothers.  For how can I go back  to my  father unless the boy is with me?  Let me not  see to the sorrow that would overcome my father! ... Yosef could no longer restrain himself." (44:32-45:1)

R. Bin-Nun claims that Yosef's feelings of rejection by  his  family are the foundation for the naming of  his first born "Menashe," meaning, "God has made me forget my hardship  and  my  father's  home"  (nashani  =   made  me forget).

In  my  opinion,  the  meaning   of  the  verse  is different.  "My hardship" (amali) is to be understood  as follows (see Ibn Ezra, Bereishit 6:13): "God has made  me forget  completely  my hardship and the  HARDSHIP  of  my parental home."  Yosef does not offer thanks to  God  for having  made  him  forget his parental home,  but  rather offers thanks for enabling him to forget his tribulations in  his father's house.  It is only after Yosef rises  to the throne that he is able to make sense of his suffering in  the two previous episodes, in prison ("amali") and in his father's house ("beit avi").

II) AN ALTERNATE EXPLANATION

Abarbanel  offers  the  following   explanation  for Yosef's not contacting his father while in Egypt:

"Even  after  Yosef  tested his brothers  by   accusing them  of  espionage, he was still not certain  whether they  loved  Binyamin  or  whether  they  still   hated Rachel's  children, so he focused on Binyamin  to  see whether  they  would  try to  save  him."   (chap.  42, questions 4 & 6)

Yosef's  behavior is part of an overall  scheme   to test the brothers and provide them with an opportunity to repent  fully for selling him into slavery.  The  sin  of Yosef's  brothers is one of the more serious sins related in  the book of Bereishit.  Both the Torah (Shemot 21:17, 20:13;  see  Rashi ibid.; Devarim 24:7) and the  Prophets (Yoel 4, Amos 2:6-10 and many others) equate this sin  of selling a free man into bondage with the gravest of sins. The  penitence  of Yosef's brothers is not an  incidental event  appearing as part of another story,  but  a  major theme of the narrative.

Reuven  and  Yehuda  were  vying   for  the  family leadership, Ya'akov having effectively ceased playing the leadership  role (see for example 34:5, 34:13-14,  35:22, 43:5).  After Shimon and Levi are excluded from the  race for leadership, the struggle continues between Reuven and Yehuda.   It  finds expression in their  argument  as  to Yosef's fate (37:22,26-27), in the recognition of the sin of  his  sale  (42:22 vs. 44:16), in  the  assumption  of responsibility for Binyamin in Egypt (42:37  vs.  43:8-9) and in additional verses in the Torah.

Reuven and Yehuda were each engaged in a process of penitence for similar sins, Reuven for having slept  with his  father's  wife (as appears from the  simple  textual reading),  Yehuda  for having lain,  albeit  unknowingly, with his son's wife. It seems clear that their individual repentance is also part of the leadership struggle.

At  first  glance, there seems to be no   connection between  Reuven's sin with his father's wife or  Yehuda's sin  with his son's wife and the selling of Yosef.  This, however, is misleading.  According to the simple  reading of  the text, Reuven's intention when committing his  sin was  to  inherit his father's leadership role during  his father's  lifetime, like Avshalom who slept with  David's concubine.   His  attempt  to rescue  Yosef  and   Yosef's dreams of royalty (37:20) are part of his repentance  for his sin with Bilha.

The  proximity of the story of Yehuda and Tamar   to the selling of Yosef indicates a connection as well.  The chain  of disasters that strike Yehuda, the loss  of  his wife and two sons, is apparently a punishment for selling Yosef.  Reuven later advances the strange suggestion that Ya'akov  kill  his  two sons, should he  fail  to  return Binyamin from Egypt (42:37).  It would seem that  he  was influenced  by  the punishment Yehuda  had  received  for selling Yosef - the death of his two sons.  This terrible punishment  for a terrible sin is branded  into  Reuven's consciousness.   Reuven  is ready  to  receive  the   same punishment if he deserts Binyamin in Egypt.

Initially, Yehuda did not imagine that his sons died due  to his sin, believing instead that "Tamar's fate  is that  her  husbands  will  die"  (Yevamot  34;   see  also Bereishit  38:11).  Finally, Yehuda realizes  that  Tamar was  in  the right and he admits, "She is more  righteous than  I" (38:26).  Only at this stage did he realize that she was not destined to have her husbands die, but rather that  it  was his destiny to lose his sons.  The sin  was his.   From  this recognition he rebuilds  his  shattered home.

The  process of repentance accompanies the brothers wherever  they  go.  When the Egyptian  viceroy  commands them  to  bring Binyamin, the second son of  Rachel,  the brothers  are immediately reminded of the sale of  Yosef. The  two  contenders  - Reuven and Yehuda  -  respond  in character.   Reuven  sees  only the  punishment  for   the crime,   and   he   does  not  suggest    any   means   of rectification.

"And  Reuven  answered them: 'Did I not tell  you,   Do not  sin  against the child; but you did  not  listen, and now his blood is being avenged.'" (42:22)

Yehuda  acknowledges his sin, but also  suggests   a positive path of repentance for the evil done.  He is not satisfied  with sackcloth and fasting, which  are  merely expressions of mourning and acceptanceof the verdict.

"And  they  tore  their clothes ... And  Yehuda   said, 'What  shall we say to my lord?  What shall we  speak? Or  how  shall  we clear ourselves?  God has   revealed the  sin  of your servants; we have become  my  lord's slaves.'" (44:13-17)

And further on, Yehuda suggests firm action:

"Let  your servant stay instead of the boy as a  slave to  my  lord and let the boy go up with his brothers." (44:33)

From  Yehuda's speech, it is apparent that when   he said, "God has revealed the sin of your servants," he was not  confessing  to stealing the cup.  He considered  the whole  episode  of  the stolen goblet as  a  fabrication. Otherwise  there  is  no  sense  in  his  recounting    of Binyamin's  journey to Egypt, nor in his suggesting  that he replace Binyamin. Rather, "God has revealed the SIN of your  servants"  undoubtedly refers  to  the  selling   of Yosef.

Similarly, Yehuda's words to his father, "If I bring him  not to you and set him before you, then I shall have SINNED  to  you  for  all  days"  (43:9),   indicate   his understanding  of  the connection between  Yosef's  being brought down to Egypt and Binyamin being brought down  to Egypt.   Binyamin's  abandonment  in  Egypt  would  be   a continuation  of  his  grievous  sin  of  selling   Yosef. Otherwise, how can we understand what sin he is referring to  and  why he should be punished if Binyamin  is  taken forcibly?   We  must  therefore  view  the  necessity   of bringing Binyamin down to Egypt as a consequence  of  the sin.  For Yehuda, protecting Binyamin at all costs is the atonement demanded for the selling of Yosef.  In offering their  respective propositions, Reuven and Yehuda  remain faithful   to   their   personalities:   Reuven    through acceptance   of   the  punishment,  and  Yehuda    through confrontation with the sin itself.

Our assumption is that Yosef too was plagued by his brothers' sin and, consequently, with the future  of  the house  of  Israel, no less than with his own fate.   From the  time  he was sold, he had begun to rebuild not  only his  own  life, but his family's unity.  This unification was  not  to  be  forced  upon his brothers,  but   rather achieved  by  willingness  and  love.   Yosef  desired   a unification born of his brothers' regretting their sin, a product  of  wholehearted repentance.  Yosef believed  in his own ability to initiate such a process or at least to test its existence.

Yosef  had commanded his brothers to bring Binyamin to Egypt.  When the brothers actually brought Binyamin to Egypt, despite the danger, in order to redeem Shimon  and to   buy   food,  Yosef,  who  was  unaware   of  Yehuda's assumption of guardianship and its importance, presumably saw  the brothers' action as yet another failure to  meet the test and challenge that he had set before them.

Yosef  cries three times.  The first two   times  he cries  in private, and then restrains himself.  The third time he breaks down totally and cries, openly and without control.   R.  Bin-Nun cites the third episode  as  proof that Yosef was taken by surprise by the developments, and therefore  concludes  that  this  outcome  had  not   been planned  by  Yosef.   However,  R.  Bin-Nun  ignores   the obvious connection between the three instances.   Let  us examine these three episodes.

A) First Tears:
The   brothers  are  subjected   to  an   intensive interrogation during three days of imprisonment, inducing them  to  repent for their sin and accept the  punishment and suffering, with Reuven in the lead (42:21,22).

"On  the  third day, Yosef said to them, 'Do this  and you  shall live, for I am a God-fearing man.   If  you are  honest  men, let one of you brothers be  held  in your place of detention, while the rest of you go  and take  home  rations for your starving households;  but you  must  bring me your youngest brother,  that  your words may be verified and that you may not die.'   And they did accordingly. They   said  to  one  another,  'Alas,  we   are  being punished  on  account of our brother [Yosef],  because we  looked on at his anguish, yet paid no heed  as  he pleaded  with us.  That is why this distress has  come upon us.' Then  Reuven  spoke up and said to them,  'Did  I   not tell  you, Do not sin against the child; but  you  did not listen, and now his blood is being avenged.' They  did  not know that Yosef understood,  for  there was  an  interpreter between him and them.  He  turned away  from them, and wept.  But he came back  to  them and  spoke to them; and he took Shimon from among them and had him bound before their eyes." (42:18-24)

We  have previously defined this kind of repentance as  "Reuven's  repentance," a repentance  which  involves submission  and acceptance of the verdict,  but  lacks  a program for improvement and change. Yosef is prepared  to accept his brothers' confession and their submission.  He witnesses the beginning of the ten brothers' reconnection to the sons of Rachel, and he cries (42:24).  But this is not  sufficient  for him.  He requires a  fuller,  deeper repentance.

B) Second Tears
Yosef expected that the brothers would return to him empty-handed, placing themselves in danger by  explaining to him that they had decided not to endanger Binyamin for the  sake of Shimon and were willing to suffer the  shame of hunger.  This is what would have happened, had Ya'akov had  his way.  Thus Yosef was disappointed when it became clear  to  him that the brothers had brought Binyamin  in order  to  redeem  Shimon, despite the  danger  to  their youngest brother.

"Looking  about,  he  saw his  brother   Binyamin,  his mother's  son,  and  asked,  'Is  this  your   youngest brother  of  whom you spoke to me?'  And he  went   on, 'May God be gracious to you, my boy.' With  that,  Yosef hurried out, for  he  was   overcome with  feeling toward his brother and was on the  verge of tears; he went into a room and wept there." (43:29-30)

Yosef  is  still unaware of Yehuda's assumption   of responsibility for Binyamin.  His mercy is  aroused  when he  realizes that his younger brother's fate is to be  no better  than  his  own  -  Yosef views  Binyamin's   being brought to Egypt as a recurrence of his own sale.   True, in  this  case it is brought on by hunger and is not  the outcome of jealousy or hatred.  Nonetheless, this was not the total repentance that was expected in the wake of the confessions  he  had heard from the brothers  and  Reuven previously.

The  verse  tells  us that Yosef  feels   compassion towards  Binyamin, and weeps in private.  Yosef  believes that  Yehuda,  the  man who had proposed  his  sale,  had prevailed over Reuven, the man who had tried to save him. This  is the only possible explanation of Yosef's  crying over  Binyamin,  his  tears  being  tears  of  mercy   for Binyamin and not tears of happiness at the event of their meeting.   Why  else should the exiled brother,  who  had spent  a  third  of his life in prison, have  pitied  his thirty-year old brother, who had remained with his father and raised a large family?

C) Third Tears
Yosef decided to test his brothers once more.  This time,  however,  the  test would be more  difficult.   He makes  his brothers jealous of Binyamin in the  same  way that they had once been jealous of him.  He displays more outward   affection  for  Binyamin  than  for  them    and increases his portion five times over, as well as  giving him a striped coat (and five other garments, 43:34).   He also  attempts  to  arouse the brothers'  hatred  towards Binyamin  for having stolen his goblet, an act  that  re-implicated them for the crime of espionage.  Yosef's  aim is  to  test their reaction to the prospect of Binyamin's permanent enslavement in Egypt.

The  brothers  rend  their  garments   (parallel  to Yosef's coat, 37:23).  Yehuda says, "God has revealed the sin  of  your  servants," and then  offers  himself   into permanent  slavery  as  atonement for  his  lifelong  sin towards his father.

"Yehuda  approached him and said: '...Now your servant has  pledged himself for the boy to my father, saying, If  I  do  not  bring him back to you,  I   shall  have sinned  to my father for all days.  Therefore,  please let  your servant remain as a slave to my lord instead of  the  boy,  and  let  the  boy  go   back  with  his brothers.   For how can I go back to my father  unless the  boy is with me?  Let me not be witness to the woe that would overtake my father.' Yosef  could no longer control himself before all  his attendants,  and  he  cried out, 'Haeveryone  withdraw from  me!'  So there was no one else about when  Yosef made himself known to his brothers.  His sobs were  so loud  that the Egyptians could hear, and so  the  news reached Pharaoh's palace." (44:32-45:2)

At  this  point, Yosef is convinced of their   total repentance.    Yehuda's  act  combines   two    kinds   of repentance.   The  first  form  of  repentance  is    that required by the early mystics (foremost, Rabbi Eliezer of Worms, author of the Sefer Rokeach), whereby penance must counterbalance the crime.  Yehuda, in a torn garment as a permanent slave in Egypt, is in the exact position he had placed  Yosef.   Secondly,  we  have  the  repentance   as defined by the Rambam:

"What  is  complete  repentance?   When  a   person  is confronted with the opportunity to repeat his sin  but restrains  himself  because  of  repentance,  and   not because of fear or weakness." (Hilkhot Teshuva 2:1)

Yehuda  now  is prepared to give his life   to  save Binyamin.   Yosef comes to realize his mistake in  crying for  pity  over Binyamin.  He understands that Binyamin's being  brought  down to Egypt was not the result  of  the brothers'  disdain for Binyamin but rather the result  of Yehuda's   becoming   Binyamin's   guarantor.     Yehuda's repentance, including his attempt to amend the past, is a continuation   and  completion  of  Reuven's    atonement. Yosef's  weeping for the third time is a continuation  of his  weeping the first time, when Reuven submitted to the divine punishment.

When the repentance is complete, Yosef is no longer capable of restraining himself, and he weeps openly.   At this  stage,  the brothers' repentance for selling  Yosef into slavery is complete and Yosef can reveal himself  to them.

(This presentation of Rav Medan's ideas is abridged  from a much longer article in Megadim, vol. 2.)

RAV BIN-NUN RESPONDS:

After   carefully  reading  Rav   Medan's  detailed arguments,  I  nevertheless maintain that my presentation of the events is the correct one.

There  is  clearly  a  process  of   repentance  and rectification on the part of Yosef's brothers,  and  this is  our guide to understanding the affair.  But all  this is  God's  plan, not Yosef's.  All of R. Medan's evidence proving a process of repentance is correct; but there  is no reason to credit Yosef with this.

At  the  end  of Bereishit (50:15-21) we   find  the brothers,  after Ya'akov's death, prostrating  themselves before  Yosef  and offering themselves as  slaves.   This indicates  that  their  prior  repentance  had  not   been complete,  and  they  did  not  regard  Yosef  as   having orchestrated  (and  accepted) their  repentance  earlier. Thus,  the  challenge of repentance offered the  brothers regarding Binyamin is a challenge issuing from God. Yosef himself  was  forever acting according to natural,  human considerations, as I explained.

It should be noted that R. Medan gives an extremely contrived   interpretation  of   the   verse    explaining Menashe's name, "For God has forced me to forget  all  my tribulations and my father's house."  The verse seemingly coheres with my explanation.  He also totally ignores the significance  of  Yehuda's quotation of Ya'akov's  words, "You  have  know that my wife bore me two;  one  departed from me and I said he was surely devoured."  There is  no proof  that Yosef's inability to restrain his  tears  was due  solely  to Yehuda's final words and not to  Yehuda's speech as a whole.

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